23-11-2016, 05:12 PM
Wow Sofia,
you've got a really busy week! You are right - a lot can happen in one week! And I think you did well!
You've met some new people. It means you've started to build a supportive network. You've came out to some of your friends... Your feminine identity is further differentiating and developing... It looks like you know what you are doing and you are moving forward! Be proud of yourself!
Yes, it is sad that your wife does not appear so supportive. And although it is nice you try to understand her reactions, the fact is you did not choose to be trans... And you are doing your best to deal with it. I think if you kept repressing your true self for too long, you wouldn't live a happy life. There will always be that itch of unused potential. That feeling: "What if I have done it differently." And there is a high probability your subconscious would find a different way to express your inner feelings and maybe would begin to sabotage your relationship in different ways...
Moreover, I am just thinking - would our partners prefer if we lied to them? Would they really feel better knowing we are just pretending being happy?
Anyway, I've read interesting comments about changes in relationship after one partner comes out as TG at webpage by Jennifer Diane Reitz:
http://www.transsexual.org/letters1.html...motionally
I wish you many happy moments in the future!
Poly
you've got a really busy week! You are right - a lot can happen in one week! And I think you did well!
You've met some new people. It means you've started to build a supportive network. You've came out to some of your friends... Your feminine identity is further differentiating and developing... It looks like you know what you are doing and you are moving forward! Be proud of yourself!
Yes, it is sad that your wife does not appear so supportive. And although it is nice you try to understand her reactions, the fact is you did not choose to be trans... And you are doing your best to deal with it. I think if you kept repressing your true self for too long, you wouldn't live a happy life. There will always be that itch of unused potential. That feeling: "What if I have done it differently." And there is a high probability your subconscious would find a different way to express your inner feelings and maybe would begin to sabotage your relationship in different ways...
Moreover, I am just thinking - would our partners prefer if we lied to them? Would they really feel better knowing we are just pretending being happy?
Anyway, I've read interesting comments about changes in relationship after one partner comes out as TG at webpage by Jennifer Diane Reitz:
http://www.transsexual.org/letters1.html...motionally
I wish you many happy moments in the future!
Poly