11-11-2016, 08:24 PM
I dont claim to understand some peoples reasoning for ignorance, it does happen quite often. (I fear, here accross the pond, thats what we are going to go back to for a few years. Fear and hate... but thats another story)
Your mom appears to be taking it as well as is to be expected, its hard to explain to people things they havent expierenced. its like describing the inside of your basement to some one who has never seen a house.
You do your best, tell them that this is no joke, love them, care for them and move on. They accept you or they come to terms with it either way. - Your mom is no different than most, the shock takes a while to completely fade, there is a period in which they try to pretend it never happened, then with re-affirming, bam. it hits them its not some game you are playing for attention or grattitude. Things change, usually for the better, and all moves on.
My biological mother is not accepting at all, ive been unable to tell her because i know the reaction i will recieve will be negative. - My step mother on the other hand im out to, even if im a long way off from anything to your level. i knew she would be accepting and understanding to some degree(she is nearer to my age after all...)
So, taking that as you will, you can see the varying differences of opinion are inititially different, but only time changes for the best.
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I should also note, as far as public identity of pronouns, remember, some people will do it regardless of how passable you are at that moment. ive been in those situations where body language gave away a persons past and they were wrongfully identified...
I had to spend the next 6 hours, consoling some one over 3 letters, verbally spoken. - So be happy when you are, but dont fall apart when you dont. Its only momentary.
(I get giddy when i do, but, i physically always protray as male currently. so it comes as a suprise... i some times wonder what i did to be gendered such a way. but i wear a smile the rest of the day.)
Your mom appears to be taking it as well as is to be expected, its hard to explain to people things they havent expierenced. its like describing the inside of your basement to some one who has never seen a house.
You do your best, tell them that this is no joke, love them, care for them and move on. They accept you or they come to terms with it either way. - Your mom is no different than most, the shock takes a while to completely fade, there is a period in which they try to pretend it never happened, then with re-affirming, bam. it hits them its not some game you are playing for attention or grattitude. Things change, usually for the better, and all moves on.
My biological mother is not accepting at all, ive been unable to tell her because i know the reaction i will recieve will be negative. - My step mother on the other hand im out to, even if im a long way off from anything to your level. i knew she would be accepting and understanding to some degree(she is nearer to my age after all...)
So, taking that as you will, you can see the varying differences of opinion are inititially different, but only time changes for the best.
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I should also note, as far as public identity of pronouns, remember, some people will do it regardless of how passable you are at that moment. ive been in those situations where body language gave away a persons past and they were wrongfully identified...
I had to spend the next 6 hours, consoling some one over 3 letters, verbally spoken. - So be happy when you are, but dont fall apart when you dont. Its only momentary.
(I get giddy when i do, but, i physically always protray as male currently. so it comes as a suprise... i some times wonder what i did to be gendered such a way. but i wear a smile the rest of the day.)