02-11-2016, 05:29 PM
(This post was last modified: 02-11-2016, 05:31 PM by jannet.duff.)
If I may point out a few things ..
The dynamics of your marriage have just changed. Although you feel the same as you have always felt, she feels lied too, and deceived. You have another life behind her back that she knows nothing about. The task you have right now is to try and rebuild the relationship and try to get her to realize that she and the children are the centre of your universe. The road back into her love is a long hard battle, but if she really loves you, it is possible.
Now, as for her keeping it a secret, her friends and family will notice she is not happy, like it or not she will need a friend to talk to and a shoulder to cry on or vent to. After a while my wife asked if she at least tell one of her close friends she felt she could trust. I felt she should, as she needed people to talk to the way we talk between ourselves, on this forum. In the end most of our female friends now know.
So far as I know our male friends do not. ( not counting the store owner ). It took a lot of pressure from my wife. Even better when. 1 or 2 of her friends are supportive of both my wife and myself.
Its a long climb to complete happiness, but it can be done. Rest assured thou, she may be forgiving, excepting, and understanding. But she will never fully be happy with the situation, given the choice when you first met, chances are she would have run a mile.
I wish you luck.. Typically, hope for the, expect the worst.
The dynamics of your marriage have just changed. Although you feel the same as you have always felt, she feels lied too, and deceived. You have another life behind her back that she knows nothing about. The task you have right now is to try and rebuild the relationship and try to get her to realize that she and the children are the centre of your universe. The road back into her love is a long hard battle, but if she really loves you, it is possible.
Now, as for her keeping it a secret, her friends and family will notice she is not happy, like it or not she will need a friend to talk to and a shoulder to cry on or vent to. After a while my wife asked if she at least tell one of her close friends she felt she could trust. I felt she should, as she needed people to talk to the way we talk between ourselves, on this forum. In the end most of our female friends now know.
So far as I know our male friends do not. ( not counting the store owner ). It took a lot of pressure from my wife. Even better when. 1 or 2 of her friends are supportive of both my wife and myself.
Its a long climb to complete happiness, but it can be done. Rest assured thou, she may be forgiving, excepting, and understanding. But she will never fully be happy with the situation, given the choice when you first met, chances are she would have run a mile.
I wish you luck.. Typically, hope for the, expect the worst.