[jannet.duff]

The ultimate riddle, how to find balance in your relationship, as you find balance within yourself.  Unfortunately that answer varies from relationship to relationship and the outcomes are not always what we hoped.  

I feel your pain Jannet, as it plagues every day.  My wife has tolerated quite a bit from me in the past, but this is one thing I am not sure she would be able to get past.  I have brought up various topics and points vetting my wife's responses, and it is never good.  Usually leaves me distraught and torn.

I really hope that you are able to find that right balance, or that as time progresses and your wife sees how much happier you are, she will accept you wholly and completely as Jannet.

That my friend, is the best that we can hope for.