[Sofia Bunny]

You and I are in a similar boat. For many of the same reasons. I truly wonder how many more of "us" are in the same boat?

20 yrs ago, my wife and I could talk about anything, and I mean anything... But since I had my heart problems, she started out VERY protective of me. To the point of smothering me.

But, that has changed over the last 10 yrs to where we hardly ever kiss or snuggle anymore. That was the main reason I didn't want to be so blatant about how I felt or wanted to do. But, it has gotten to the point that I quit denying what I was doing when she said or asked about "things".

Maybe that is the key for me? Quit denying, dancing around the issue? Perhaps, that will open another chapter and not close the book. I can only ponder and hope so.

I wish you luck.

Thank you iaboy for your insight, I appreciate it! I believe for me, not denying things was key. In the past when confronted about this or that I would beat around the bush, joke around, and not really give a straight answer to the point she would be frustrated with me, and would lead to arguments. Lately when she confronted me about me underwear, I didn't deny it, I didn't joke around, I was straight to the point, and while slightly uncomfortable for a minute, there wasn't a long drawn out battle. That's kind of why I was open about my choice of sleepwear, I wanted to test the waters to see how she would react. Again, uncomfortable for a few minutes, but not a long drawn out battle.

I think that's what has me contemplating this now more than ever, is that a small part of me is hoping that maybe there is a slim chance in hell that she would be somewhat partially okay with the who I am.