[spanky (aka Lola)]

Hi Lotus,
Glad to be able to maybe help you out for a change!
I'm 67. that is a new 67.
Here is my perspective and what I have observed over the 5 years I have been sharing this experience with my wife and being more openly femme.
1. As you pass 50 and 60 you dont give hoot about what other people think! Your past having to make an impression and your life style is not a flaunt my sexy booty in the bar type. Your femminization is a serious thing and something you put a lot of time, thought and hard work into.
2. Most of the 50+ crowd that discovers that they should have been female ages ago, do it and leave the TS scene. aka Clara Kay. They were trans sexual but now its over, they want and need to just be a woman. So its hard to get a perspective from the other side.
3. The biggest issue with being 50+ is that we all want those perky 20+ boobs and slender waist and lovely physique.. but we have other issues.. wrinkles, belly, muffin top cellulite, MPB. So even when we are all done with our DIY remodeling there is still a lot that needs to be tweaked. That distracts us from where we were heading. So forget about it. Your 40, 50, 60 what ever, there is a wonderful maturity that we need to accept and slide into. Wrinkles and all. You are still allowed to wear a mini skirt. I said so, so there!
4. However, I have found that as I drift to femme I am much more conscious about my figure, my appearance, and what goes into my body. SO I believe that all of this is a great thing to extend our lives and we should do what is required to prolong the wonderful days ahead. Diet, exercise and mastering the art of makeup.
I dont know if I answered your concerns, but I think the bottom line as we get older id F**k it THIS IS WHO I AM. I LOVE BEING ME.

Bobbi

Thanks for posting this. I did not make any moves in the F direction until I passed 60. Point 1 is very true for me. I care a lot less about how others react, partly because I no longer have to please and employer (my partners) and clients as I once did. The observation in 2 is very probably correct, although I do not know whether it applies equally to those who do not plan to go as far as SRS, or even to take their testosterone levels down as far as they can go. Observation 3 is very true. There are not many 60+ year old who avoid visible signs of aging. We are not likely to look like young fashion models no matter what we do. A little grace is what is required. Finally, I am with you on point 4.