16-09-2015, 06:13 AM
About ten(?) years ago when I first went there Susan's was so toxically hostile to non-binary people that it made me bottle up my GD and not deal with it. I still am a bit bitter over that lost decade.
More recently they have been better, but there was still a mass exodus of NB folks that went out to form their own forum, and Susan's was worse off for it. But I'd still say they are at least ok now days on NB issues, but not as good as they were for awhile.
But overall, I think this is my favourite current forum. Many people taking a slow path. NB is ok. Even if a lot of NB people eventually go all the way, I think it is healthier to think of gender as more of a spectrum and largely performance anyway.
I think just finding an authentic way to just be you, and then finding a way to be it in this world is the important thing.
I am still curing myself of years of "I can't" and "I could never" thinking.
- JJ
More recently they have been better, but there was still a mass exodus of NB folks that went out to form their own forum, and Susan's was worse off for it. But I'd still say they are at least ok now days on NB issues, but not as good as they were for awhile.
But overall, I think this is my favourite current forum. Many people taking a slow path. NB is ok. Even if a lot of NB people eventually go all the way, I think it is healthier to think of gender as more of a spectrum and largely performance anyway.
I think just finding an authentic way to just be you, and then finding a way to be it in this world is the important thing.
I am still curing myself of years of "I can't" and "I could never" thinking.
- JJ