20-07-2015, 07:14 AM
Thank you, Miranda, for the PM containing your e-mail. I'm sure there are many things we can discuss off-line of mutual importance.
I can understand being grateful for the help we've received over the years being associated with Breast Nexus and wanting to pay forward support to new members coming on-line who are trying to cope with their gender issues. I've feel that way, too. How to pay forward that gratitude is a personal decision we each have to make.
Just keep in mind that those of us who are in transition, by nature, are moving forward. Things change relative to where we find ourselves in time. There's a growth process that is taking place which needs nourishment from many different sources. Part of the transition process is managing the changing scenery.
One of the growth issues is finding the right support at the place you find yourself at any given time. There is a certain melancholy associated with leaving companions with whom you've shared many good experiences, and move on to higher learning. But it is necessary if you are to get the most out of your transition. One cannot be cavalier about it.
My focus currently is to find other trans women who are in the same place or further along in their transition than I am in mine. For example, I spent this weekend with a trans couple (transitioning husband with supportive spouse). Our discussions brought about many new insights on both sides that were very help to all four of us. There are so many things that need attention to successfully transition that are not going to be the subject of conversation here. Look to those who have traveled before you; look to those who are smarter than you; look to those who welcome your inquiries and requests for advice and guidance.
Clara
I can understand being grateful for the help we've received over the years being associated with Breast Nexus and wanting to pay forward support to new members coming on-line who are trying to cope with their gender issues. I've feel that way, too. How to pay forward that gratitude is a personal decision we each have to make.
Just keep in mind that those of us who are in transition, by nature, are moving forward. Things change relative to where we find ourselves in time. There's a growth process that is taking place which needs nourishment from many different sources. Part of the transition process is managing the changing scenery.
One of the growth issues is finding the right support at the place you find yourself at any given time. There is a certain melancholy associated with leaving companions with whom you've shared many good experiences, and move on to higher learning. But it is necessary if you are to get the most out of your transition. One cannot be cavalier about it.
My focus currently is to find other trans women who are in the same place or further along in their transition than I am in mine. For example, I spent this weekend with a trans couple (transitioning husband with supportive spouse). Our discussions brought about many new insights on both sides that were very help to all four of us. There are so many things that need attention to successfully transition that are not going to be the subject of conversation here. Look to those who have traveled before you; look to those who are smarter than you; look to those who welcome your inquiries and requests for advice and guidance.
Clara