[WantAPair]

Good point, Wap. If possible, that's the way to do it. The last thing you want is to broadcast to the world that you're a trans woman. Except for the tranny chasers out there, you become damaged goods.

Clara

I'm not at all into lying to anyone, but, in the first place, you're NOT lying, you're just not telling everything and, secondly, I just think it'd be the safest way to go.

This MIGHT not relate, but it's in the same ballpark. Back in the late `80's, this girl, Wendy, moved into the house where my singer and bass player lived and where we rehearsed (and recorded most of our first album). Apparently, from what I was told at least a decade later, she was pregnant, but I didn't know that back then! Now, she was kinda cute, but I was in NO way hitting on her!! Well, I was told that she was 16, but she was really a few years older! The band TOLD me she was 16 so I wouldn't try to hit on her, which I think was pretty strange, because I WASN'T hitting on her or very much interested in doing so! Besides, my guitarist, Jason, was the "have dick: will travel" type!! If she needed protection from ANYONE, it should've been HIM! It wasn't until some time in the past 10 years that I found out they were protecting her from ME by lying to me about her age and not telling me she was pregnant!
Lol. NOW I don't remember where I was going with this!! :-/ I know it had SOMETHING to do with lying or not telling the truth. If I think of it later, I'll let ya know. sorry.

Addendum: The last time I saw Wendy at a gig was about 17 or 18 years ago. As soon as I walked into the room, she jumped up, screamed my name and ran across the room with her arms out, jumped over to me and wrapped her arms AND legs around me and gave me a big kiss like I was her newly found long-lost boyfriend!! Lol. I have NO idea what that was about, but it was a pretty nice welcome!!