05-05-2015, 01:09 AM
Bryony,
I suppose so, in the sense I'm a bio-male with no interest in transitioning.
Here's your original quote:
As I said earlier, I don't subscribe to this belief and I think it certainly shows.
I think being good at commitment is only part of the story in regards to being an excellent partner. The other part I think is having the foresight and discipline to select a compatible person to marry, rather than marrying someone just because they are rich, good in bed or sexy. There's a saying that men want their wives to stay the same and women want their husbands to change. If there is any truth to this, I think it shows both sexes can be in denial about who they are really marrying.
Without this skill for finding compatability, women (and men) can be good at commitment but still be doomed to having lousy marriages. Frankly, I think very few happy and devoted partners just up and cheat at the drop of a hat. Instead, I think cheating is a symptom of a far greater problem that probably arose from a lack of communication and compatibility in personality. For instance, he may have cheated because she was withholding sex to manipulate him because they got into a disagreement about something and so on. If women divorced solely because of infidelity, I think women would soon figure out how to avoid the horny men who lack the discipline to not get into bed with another woman whenever the opportunity presented itself.
Quote:"Us"? So you do consider yourself primarily male? Big Grin
I suppose so, in the sense I'm a bio-male with no interest in transitioning.
Quote:I'm not sure you are quoting me precisely. I do idolise women in general though there are [specific] instances whose behaviour is abominable and repulsive; and on the whole due to evolutionary pressures, I think that their attitude to commitment is far, far better than ours, and in that sense at least (though there are others) they are better beings than those of us who still admit to being male.
Here's your original quote:
Quote:I've always thought that one of the reasons that I am the way I am is that I idolise women so much, in many ways because they are better than us. Time and again I see behaviour that shows how right this belief is.
As I said earlier, I don't subscribe to this belief and I think it certainly shows.
I think being good at commitment is only part of the story in regards to being an excellent partner. The other part I think is having the foresight and discipline to select a compatible person to marry, rather than marrying someone just because they are rich, good in bed or sexy. There's a saying that men want their wives to stay the same and women want their husbands to change. If there is any truth to this, I think it shows both sexes can be in denial about who they are really marrying.
Without this skill for finding compatability, women (and men) can be good at commitment but still be doomed to having lousy marriages. Frankly, I think very few happy and devoted partners just up and cheat at the drop of a hat. Instead, I think cheating is a symptom of a far greater problem that probably arose from a lack of communication and compatibility in personality. For instance, he may have cheated because she was withholding sex to manipulate him because they got into a disagreement about something and so on. If women divorced solely because of infidelity, I think women would soon figure out how to avoid the horny men who lack the discipline to not get into bed with another woman whenever the opportunity presented itself.