29-04-2015, 06:38 AM
I really tried to stay out of this, yet here I am adding my two cents again. While I understand your point of view Bryony, I feel you lack a bit of tactfulness. While there is a time and place to be brutally honest I feel that without knowing the other party there's the risk of driving that person over the edge.
Bryony, not one of us is perfect. How can you expect to find any fault in that which you idolize and set upon a pedestal? Men and women are capable evil and maliciousness. I've seen it first hand. Explain to me the women who sleep around to satisfy their sexual desires even though they are married with kids? We always hear about unfaithful men because well quite frankly men can be stupid and sloppy. While women can be more conniving, and discrete. Believe me, as I stated, I know and seen it first hand. But it is not fair for me to say all women are evil, manipulative backstabbers, nor would it be fair for me to say all men are just misunderstood. Male, female, we're all capable of major wrong doing as well as compassionate feats.
Whether we like it or not our words carry power. They can soothe and heal or crush and destroy. I doubt anyone would feel good about themselves if they found out they were somewhat responsible for a bleak turn of events.
So maybe instead of condemning someone for something that may be beyond their control, perhaps we can offer some viable advice, or seek further information that can maybe lead to better possible solutions.
For example, PM could possibly ease the authors mental state. If so then perhaps he would be able to discuss it with his wife and see how she feels. Then maybe they can find some viable solutions together. Now if the desires and confusion still persist or are stronger, then there may be something deeper. Again discussions with his wife would need to take place, perhaps some form of counseling too. Hopefully a viable solution can be found. Who knows, maybe after discussing things with the Mrs. maybe she is open to being domineering, and up for some role playing. Then again, maybe not.
Now out of curiosity Freya, did you have your desires prior to getting married? If so then it should have been discussed with your partner to be. If not, is there anything in particular that brought about these urges? When you cheated was it with another female, or a male? Again just curiosity, feel free to answer some or none.
Bryony, not one of us is perfect. How can you expect to find any fault in that which you idolize and set upon a pedestal? Men and women are capable evil and maliciousness. I've seen it first hand. Explain to me the women who sleep around to satisfy their sexual desires even though they are married with kids? We always hear about unfaithful men because well quite frankly men can be stupid and sloppy. While women can be more conniving, and discrete. Believe me, as I stated, I know and seen it first hand. But it is not fair for me to say all women are evil, manipulative backstabbers, nor would it be fair for me to say all men are just misunderstood. Male, female, we're all capable of major wrong doing as well as compassionate feats.
Whether we like it or not our words carry power. They can soothe and heal or crush and destroy. I doubt anyone would feel good about themselves if they found out they were somewhat responsible for a bleak turn of events.
So maybe instead of condemning someone for something that may be beyond their control, perhaps we can offer some viable advice, or seek further information that can maybe lead to better possible solutions.
For example, PM could possibly ease the authors mental state. If so then perhaps he would be able to discuss it with his wife and see how she feels. Then maybe they can find some viable solutions together. Now if the desires and confusion still persist or are stronger, then there may be something deeper. Again discussions with his wife would need to take place, perhaps some form of counseling too. Hopefully a viable solution can be found. Who knows, maybe after discussing things with the Mrs. maybe she is open to being domineering, and up for some role playing. Then again, maybe not.
Now out of curiosity Freya, did you have your desires prior to getting married? If so then it should have been discussed with your partner to be. If not, is there anything in particular that brought about these urges? When you cheated was it with another female, or a male? Again just curiosity, feel free to answer some or none.