29-04-2015, 03:57 AM
Bryony,
I have a very mixed opinion towards your stance. I suspect my personal behavioral code agrees with yours more than differs. However, I also very much believe in people's freedom to do whatever they want with their life so long as they're not infringing on the freedoms of others.
I'm intrigued by your comparison of GD with anorexics. I agree with you about the dangers of anorexics furthering their self-destructive behavior. However, what if the anorexic goes into denial that she has a problem to appease her spouse and family? She tries to maintain a facade of being healthy and normal, but this only drives her maladaptive tendencies further and further as she believes she is truly alone and nobody can help her or even understand her? Promoting anorexia is dangerous no doubt; but so is being in denial about it as well, just as can be with GD.
Is leaving one's spouse on a whim or unexpectedly a bad decision? Yes, I would say so. However, I couldn't say how much better or worse it is to live a lie to keep up the pretenses and to not offend the wife's feelings. I'm sincerely curious here, would you have the same perspective if the situation was reversed? Would you condemn the wife for getting married without disclosing her gender dysphoria?
I don't put women on a pedestal. I think individuals should be judged by their character, not by their gender. Women can be abusive, egocentric and toxic just like men can be. I don't think a man leaving his wife is misogyny, anymore than a woman leaving her husband is misandry.
I have a very mixed opinion towards your stance. I suspect my personal behavioral code agrees with yours more than differs. However, I also very much believe in people's freedom to do whatever they want with their life so long as they're not infringing on the freedoms of others.
I'm intrigued by your comparison of GD with anorexics. I agree with you about the dangers of anorexics furthering their self-destructive behavior. However, what if the anorexic goes into denial that she has a problem to appease her spouse and family? She tries to maintain a facade of being healthy and normal, but this only drives her maladaptive tendencies further and further as she believes she is truly alone and nobody can help her or even understand her? Promoting anorexia is dangerous no doubt; but so is being in denial about it as well, just as can be with GD.
Is leaving one's spouse on a whim or unexpectedly a bad decision? Yes, I would say so. However, I couldn't say how much better or worse it is to live a lie to keep up the pretenses and to not offend the wife's feelings. I'm sincerely curious here, would you have the same perspective if the situation was reversed? Would you condemn the wife for getting married without disclosing her gender dysphoria?
I don't put women on a pedestal. I think individuals should be judged by their character, not by their gender. Women can be abusive, egocentric and toxic just like men can be. I don't think a man leaving his wife is misogyny, anymore than a woman leaving her husband is misandry.