[jannet.duff]

Trust Bryony to go for the jugular . I would not often agree with him, but this is one of those times I must. Splitting up from your commitments must be seen as a last resort ( at least for me ). If you are in a loving relationship, and have kids then you need to try out all other avenues to resolve your feelings. I can understand your feelings but just dropping your wife and kids just to play around with another ( of any sex ) is just wrong.
Sit down with your wife, let her know what's going on inside your head. Then move forward, some counsel will more thsn likely be needed for both of you.

If you are in a loving relationship, this can be worked out. Hopefully !