24-04-2015, 11:29 AM
I am in a similar situation as a number of others here I think. I have had some brief discussions with my wife although to some degree, she is trying to ignore it.
Her primary response is she loves me for me and not my gender. At the same time, at 10 or so years off retirement, she does not want me to put my employment in jeopardy and compromise our post-retirement lifestyle.
At present, I do not have a strong desire to cross dress in public and I am more repulsed by my masculinity than a desire to be feminine, so that is ok with me. The hardest thing for me will be that she has stipulated I keep my facial hair.
She also distrusts herbs etc, so she is insisting that I do this "properly" going down the HRT route under medical supervision. I have not mentioned to her being on WP and FG. Both she and my Dr think that PM is not sufficiently known and should be avoided. I am not sure I agree, but I will respect their wishes and go down the HRT route.
Misty's words above resonated. 'I know I "wish" I were female, but I can't say that I "am" female, nor that I even "should have been" female.'
On the X and the Y thing that was discussed above, from my lay interpretation of what I have read on Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome and some types of intersex, it seems to me that the X and Y just set up the initial hormone mix. After that, whether the stem cells differentiate into a uterus or prostate depends on that hormone mix. If researchers can work out how to make stem cells from differentiated cells for real (as opposed to the team that faked results last year), then maybe it will be possible to grow a uterus and ovaries that are genetically yours and implant them. The right hormone just need to be present when they are growing. (I might have this completely wrong!)
We have all just been born 30 years too early.
Her primary response is she loves me for me and not my gender. At the same time, at 10 or so years off retirement, she does not want me to put my employment in jeopardy and compromise our post-retirement lifestyle.
At present, I do not have a strong desire to cross dress in public and I am more repulsed by my masculinity than a desire to be feminine, so that is ok with me. The hardest thing for me will be that she has stipulated I keep my facial hair.
She also distrusts herbs etc, so she is insisting that I do this "properly" going down the HRT route under medical supervision. I have not mentioned to her being on WP and FG. Both she and my Dr think that PM is not sufficiently known and should be avoided. I am not sure I agree, but I will respect their wishes and go down the HRT route.
Misty's words above resonated. 'I know I "wish" I were female, but I can't say that I "am" female, nor that I even "should have been" female.'
On the X and the Y thing that was discussed above, from my lay interpretation of what I have read on Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome and some types of intersex, it seems to me that the X and Y just set up the initial hormone mix. After that, whether the stem cells differentiate into a uterus or prostate depends on that hormone mix. If researchers can work out how to make stem cells from differentiated cells for real (as opposed to the team that faked results last year), then maybe it will be possible to grow a uterus and ovaries that are genetically yours and implant them. The right hormone just need to be present when they are growing. (I might have this completely wrong!)
We have all just been born 30 years too early.