24-04-2015, 01:04 AM
Clara,
It wasn't my intention to go down the path of asking why the dysphoria is present in me or anyone else -- I apologize for that turn. My original question centers on generic make-up of cells -- what many in the biological sciences consider the definition of gender.
None the less, to get back on subject -- I assume that if I were to tell my wife that I was going through with transition that she would most likely agree to stay with me (especially if the alternative is divorce). It would be very painful for her, however, and would inevitably cause a lot of problems between her and her family.
So the issue for me is do I find the GD so unbearable that I am willing to take my family down that road, or can I manage the rest of my life as I have managed the last 56 years? My statements to Kari would seem to place my "need" at a lower level than hers or yours, and perhaps more aligned with byrony. As such I would think that my sacrifice (in not transitioning) would be less difficult than my wife would face were I to move ahead.
More specifically concerning my wife's acceptance... she knows about my GD, she knows I have been taking PM, and she certainly notices my breast growth. She accepts who I am and accepts that the GD is real. I know it scares her, however.
Misty
It wasn't my intention to go down the path of asking why the dysphoria is present in me or anyone else -- I apologize for that turn. My original question centers on generic make-up of cells -- what many in the biological sciences consider the definition of gender.
None the less, to get back on subject -- I assume that if I were to tell my wife that I was going through with transition that she would most likely agree to stay with me (especially if the alternative is divorce). It would be very painful for her, however, and would inevitably cause a lot of problems between her and her family.
So the issue for me is do I find the GD so unbearable that I am willing to take my family down that road, or can I manage the rest of my life as I have managed the last 56 years? My statements to Kari would seem to place my "need" at a lower level than hers or yours, and perhaps more aligned with byrony. As such I would think that my sacrifice (in not transitioning) would be less difficult than my wife would face were I to move ahead.
More specifically concerning my wife's acceptance... she knows about my GD, she knows I have been taking PM, and she certainly notices my breast growth. She accepts who I am and accepts that the GD is real. I know it scares her, however.
Misty