[ElainMoria]

Don't get me wrong, I love my brother, but he is an extreme and manipulative narcissist. EVERYTHING has to revolve around him and what he wants, even if doing so is harmful or difficult for others, and if he doesn't get it he throws a shit fit and rages until he does (and at 6'7" it's always an epic tantrum). He learned this behavior from his mother (not from mine) who let him do whatever he wanted if he threw a long enough fit about it, and at 43 he still thinks that's how to get what he wants. He used to succeed with me doing the same thing but I've changed significantly in the last 15 years and that dog doesn't hunt with me anymore.

I have already decided I'll choose to be homeless, rather than leave Oregon and move to Washington, if I can't manage to find a place. Even if I have to rent a room with someone for a while, I'll do so. Just not going to move. I have things set up here finally and need to stay. I can't afford to put my life and health at risk, for his tantrum based whims.

Sometimes being the "big sister" isn't an easy choice.

~Elain