[Misty0732]

It's a very tough call, Misty. It can work against you both ways. I know people who held off telling their wives about their trans nature out of fear of negative consequences. But, they secretly cross dress, even go on HRT in secret, gradually damaging the marital relationship. When the wife eventually discovers the deception -- and she will -- trust in the relationship is shattered. Overcoming that loss of trust makes holding the marriage and family together so much harder, even impossible. IMO, if you value your marriage, and you're not ready to tell your spouse, don't go down that path.

I agree Clara. My point is that a lot of us control our trans nature with PM, to the point that deception is not necessary. I have no desire to cross-dress or present as female when I'm on PM, for example, so I don't do it secretly, either.

My wife is aware that I have GD. She's in favor of me using PM to keep it under control (even though it does have definite feminizing effects). Trust is essential in marriage, and I don't keep my PM use from her (in fact she takes it too as it helps her menopause symptoms).

Misty