[GoneGirl]

Adding to what Rose says, I recommend reading Jennifer Boylan's story in her book "She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders". She waited till her 40's to tell her wife, Deedie. Deedie took it hard, but they've stayed together to this day. I'm surprised at how many of my TS friends don't take advantage of the experiences of others in taking this all important step. I would also read the book "The Gendered Self" by Dr. Anne Vitale for facts about the cause and treatment of gender dysphoria. Finally, the book "True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism--For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals" is a must for you and your wife to read. Overcoming the myths and misconceptions about transgenderism is critical to gaining understanding, acceptance and support.

Clara

Clara