[Misty0732]

I have decided that I need to sit down and have "the talk" with my wife. I fear the worst here but she needs to hear the truth and I need to be honest about everything. I can't see how she could of possibly missed all the clues over the years (and maybe she didn't) but we live very much in a "don't ask,don't tell" state here. (More to come on this later) I plan this talk for Saturday and I'm struggling to find the right words to start it.

Savannah,

I would implore you to *not* have "the talk" with your wife so soon. "The talk" has as much potential to do damage to your relationship as any other phase of transition (including SRS). Give the PM a chance to do it's magic. If you're like just about everyone else here, one of two things will happen. One possibility is that your inner gender identity will stir to the point where transition is necessary and inevitable. But the other possibility is that your GD will ease considerably and you'll find living as a male acceptable (and perhaps preferable given the costs of living as a women, SRS or not).

Good luck on your decision and action, either way.

Misty