[Misty0732]

I think part of the issue is the differences in dynamics between the transitioning and non-transitioning members. The former tends to post lots of full-body pictures and use their own picture as their avatar. In contrast, the latter group does not. Just look at our avatars for instance. Another factor is the level of excitement running in each group. Those transitioning have a wide variety of surprises, benefits and challenges to contend with, whether the non-transitioning have far fewer. Beyond the novelty of breast development in the first few months, it's straightforward to be able to go on auto-pilot mode with NBE so to speak. I think it's a lot easier to form bonds with other members when you have lots in common with each other such as walking on the path of transitioning.

You definitely make very valid points, flame. I certainly understand the desire the transitioning members have to share with each other. It is a very scary path and I can see how reinforcement is critical for those making the decisions. That's probably why the other sites are so intolerant of alternate opinions (an effort to try and hold the confusion down for those wrestling with the decisions).

That's why I don't tend to comment on those threads. It's not that I disapprove of their decisions -- I don't -- it's just I am afraid for them. By that I mean I'm afraid for what they may have to endure. The day may come when our society is blind to gender identity and accepts TGs in the same way it accepts different hairstyles or clothing choices. But that day is not today. People can be very cruel.

Let me clarify my position a bit. I have stated that I am "happy" continuing to present as male. A better word is "content". I do still like feeling female, I wear panties almost exclusively, I love having developing breasts (a good solid B cup now), and wear women's PJs at night. What I don't feel is a need to present as female to anyone besides my wife. I used to have that urge but the PM keeps it down. In that way I feel that my GD is "under control" in a way that allows me to be happy and at peace without the fear of hurting those closest to me.

Thanks again for the inputs.

Misty