[MissC]

Ur response lacked any type of compassion or empathy for someone who just wants to feel right, someone who feels they hav been living a lie for 28 yrs. I don't know whats going on with u or in your head but feel free to avoid my posts in the future if u have nothing constructive to say.

Hi! Welcome to the internet!

When you ask questions, you don't always just get answers you like. If you only want one kind of answer, don't ask your question in a public forum.

Or perhaps you could specify, "Here's my question. Please only give me the answers I want to hear."

You say you have a fiancee, and kids -- young ones, going by your age. There are more lives than your own in the balance here. It's apparent that your need to "feel right" is going to outweigh all of their concerns and futures, a phenomenon we generally call "narcissism."

Not everyone is going to kiss your ass and tell you that you're doing the right thing.

And like I told someone else, you're not the first. I know and interact with a number of transsexuals, some with families... or should I say, used to have families. I've seen this story play out a dozen times, and it never ends well.

I can't say "you best not do that" or "I told you so" to my real-life friends. No, I have to watch them circle the drain. You, a complete stranger, get the empathetic, compassionate, swift kick in the pants that I can't give to the people I really care about. Some times you will only get the truth from a disinterested party; an anonymous stranger.