Dear Clara, I never cease to be astonished how closely your posts (and your reading!) often reflect my own feelings, but with a clarity of expression that I cannot match. I believe that you must have been a very good engineer before your retirement, and I had dealings with very many engineers in my own profession (my DW's too).
In fact, as long as my own professional career was going well it must have contributed greatly to keeping my GD at bay. Misty, could this have been a factor in your situation, with actions taken to fill a vacuum doing so rather more effectively than you expected?
In fact, as long as my own professional career was going well it must have contributed greatly to keeping my GD at bay. Misty, could this have been a factor in your situation, with actions taken to fill a vacuum doing so rather more effectively than you expected?

