[Jordyn Michelle]

You know best, Robyn, but doing it behind her back is a risky strategy, too. Even you admit that eventually she will find out. What will her reaction be to your not having been honest with her? Bigotry is learned behavior, so it can be unlearned, as well. 'Unlearning' needs to occur before she can learn to accept your TG nature.

Clara

Robyn, I can agree 100% with Clara. As a recommendation you should stop your regimen ASAP and sit down with your wife and discuss your issues or even see a counselor who is good with GID issues or at least active in the LGBT community. I can recommend a good one in Atlanta that I saw for 3 sessions before making a mistake thinking I was over my issue. From personal experience once you open up to your wife be willing to listen and take it slow. I opened up way too quickly once I was caught in the act of CDing and thus because a flood gate of feelings and information were released to my wife I dove in head first and scared her off. Another thing you may consider do is looking into a chapter with TriEss as they have a local chapter in Atlanta called Sigma Epsilon who meet every month. I myself attended one meeting with my wife but when she personally told me she just couldn't do it (live with someone who CDs) I immediately got cold feet and stopped going for the sake of saving my marriage which did not help so I may re-attend at some point once I personally figure out where I lay with my GID. Best of luck to you and feel free if you have any other questions to reach out to this great community.