[GoneGirl]

I think that once progress starts and you can start to see the girl in the mirror it can take you farther than you ever thought was possible before you started this roller coaster ride

That is why I think it is important to know what you want and be careful what you wish for before starting NBE or HRT, you just might get it

That bold phrase above goes to the heart of the question, Eve. I can agree that one's cross gender potential is fixed, but like other things, realizing your potential becomes a matter of developing it. Is one's gender identity the hidden potential we have, or is it the realized expression? I think it's the latter, and for me, NBE was the catalyst for bringing it out, making it real.

Unfortunately, it's not always easy to know what you want at the outset of taking up NBE. For many, like myself, it was an attempt to resolve nagging questions. I envy those whose gender identity is skewed to one end of the spectrum or the other, whether they are cis or trans. I'm too much a 'tweenie' to be confident of my destiny.

Clara