[GoneGirl]

Very well put, Miranda. Thank you. I feel that you've captured the feelings of many of us -- certainly from my perspective. Your comment about getting caught up in the whirlwind of NBE and feminization is so, so true. It takes on an importance that is often completely unexpected. Are we satisfying a real need, or are we becoming addicted to the euphoric feelings from the dopamine that our brains are producing? Yes, breaks are a good idea, if only to confirm the real motives for the risks we're taking.

I'm coming to the conclusion that for us bi-gendered souls, these periods of second guessing our motives and actions come with the package. Eventually, however, I think we will come to accept the flip-flopping from our male to female personalities, and back again, as just the way we are and always will be. I find myself bolting into full guy mode when a crisis occurs, like when I was taken ill recently. Now as the stress of that experience fades, I'm back to nurturing my feminine side, and I see that she was never really gone, just on the side lines, waiting to re-emerge. It tells me that I need to find a way to accommodate both aspects of my psyche. I guess that's what I mean by "finding a balance".

Are there any other perspectives out there? Feel free to concur or disagree. In this game, there's no one size fits all.

Clara