[GoneGirl]

I don't see transgenderism being an all or nothing situation the way homosexuality is. I think one is best off easing into a crossgender role. In that way, your mom will see changes occurring over a long period and have time to adapt to your new gender expression. Grow your hair out, wear an ear ring, shave your chest hair, wear clothes that hint of the feminine, start on a low level of NBE herbs, start using feminine verbal expressions, the list goes on.

At some point, your mom may comment on some change you make. That an opportunity to engage in a conversation to learn more about her feelings and let her know yours.

I bet that over a year's time span, you could be living the life of a woman to some degree with the full knowledge and acceptance/toleration of your mom.

Waiting to hear from you.

Hugs,

Clara

this is the kind of almost painfully slow approach I am testing on my parents & Relitives.

Yes, and I'll use the same approach with my children and relatives. I came out suddenly to my wife. It worked out well, fortunately. I could do the same with others, but there's no need since I've no plans to go transsexual.

My son was over yesterday. I was wearing a T-shirt for awhile so my breasts and especially my pointy nipples showed through. He must have noticed, but didn't say anything, nor did he show signs of uneasiness. What people think is only important if they have the ability to make our lives difficult.

I have a lesbian niece. She announced her sexual orientation with no outward expression of disapproval from relatives. I realize that homosexuality has gained a level of acceptance in society that transgenderism hasn't, but I do think much of our fear is just imagined. It's still a risk to come out, so it's wise to have a backup plan in case things go sour.

Clara