02-03-2014, 07:11 AM
Hello Jenny,
In regards to telling your mom, I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your mom and what kind of positive changes you hope to achieve by telling her.
I know it's not the same, but I did have a talk with my mom about my crossdressing habits a few years ago. I never planned on telling her, but after she inquired about some incriminating evidence, I chose to tell her the truth. It was a learning experience for both of us. One, she knew a lot more about crossdressing and why males crossdress than I previously suspected. Two, while she didn't endorse my crossdressing, she accepted it as simply a part of who I am. She had no desire to try to shame me out of crossdressing by telling others or otherwise try to pressure me to stop crossdressing. Three, she still loves me and she enjoys spending time with me, even though she may prefer to keep the crossdressing out of sight and out of mind.
Have I told her about NBE and my transgender leanings? No, I see no reason to. If it's anything like crossdressing, I suspect she'll accept it and not bring it up again. Am I worried about her finding out like she did with my crossdressing? Not especially. She has never chided me for not being manly or masculine enough. She's actually supportive of me walking in high heels for a women's charity event. She has admired the feminine posters I have in my home. She appreciates the decorative and thoughtful cards I give her for her birthday and Mother's Day. Maybe my mom might prefer me to act more masculine, I don't know, but I think for her being a part of my life is much more important.
Hopefully this might give you some insight as to how to proceed with telling your mom or not.
As far as coming out at your workplace, I don't have any advice for you. I do think saving your money and preparing for the worst is a good strategy to pursue in the meantime.
In regards to telling your mom, I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your mom and what kind of positive changes you hope to achieve by telling her.
I know it's not the same, but I did have a talk with my mom about my crossdressing habits a few years ago. I never planned on telling her, but after she inquired about some incriminating evidence, I chose to tell her the truth. It was a learning experience for both of us. One, she knew a lot more about crossdressing and why males crossdress than I previously suspected. Two, while she didn't endorse my crossdressing, she accepted it as simply a part of who I am. She had no desire to try to shame me out of crossdressing by telling others or otherwise try to pressure me to stop crossdressing. Three, she still loves me and she enjoys spending time with me, even though she may prefer to keep the crossdressing out of sight and out of mind.
Have I told her about NBE and my transgender leanings? No, I see no reason to. If it's anything like crossdressing, I suspect she'll accept it and not bring it up again. Am I worried about her finding out like she did with my crossdressing? Not especially. She has never chided me for not being manly or masculine enough. She's actually supportive of me walking in high heels for a women's charity event. She has admired the feminine posters I have in my home. She appreciates the decorative and thoughtful cards I give her for her birthday and Mother's Day. Maybe my mom might prefer me to act more masculine, I don't know, but I think for her being a part of my life is much more important.
Hopefully this might give you some insight as to how to proceed with telling your mom or not.
As far as coming out at your workplace, I don't have any advice for you. I do think saving your money and preparing for the worst is a good strategy to pursue in the meantime.