[Jessica Leigh]

I've noticed that my primary care doctor goes to great lengths to *not* see me shirtless. I don't think that has anything to do with the fact that I actually mentioned to him that my breasts were growing, but rather I think that a lot of medical professionals simply respect privacy a lot more than they used to.

During my recent back surgery (in December) I changed into the hospital gown in private. When I left the hospital my wife helped me change. No one ever saw my breasts.

Now the visit I do dread is to my dermatologist. I'm overdue for a full body exam (I had a melanoma removed last May). During the last exam I had (back in May) there were two female attendants present as well as the doctor. There will be no hiding it now.

I'm debating on whether to disclose gynocomastia to my dermatologist and ask if he can do the exam solo. What do you all think? I don't want this fear to prevent me from the necessary follow-ups (melanoma can be very serious, and often deadly if not caught in time).

I appreciate any inputs/thoughts!

Misty

Your doc should be very professional - at least in your presence. Your health comes first. Gynocomastia is a perfectly exceptable cover. Most older men these days have a touch of it - heck go to a ball gem this summer and most 30 yr olds have now, along with a good roll around the middle.

But to truly use gyno as a cover don't shave your chest hair for a few weeks.

That's my advice.