Hello and thanks for the welcome.
To answer the pumping questions I do occasionally take a day off.
I feel that its important to really monitor the growth. It takes about two days before they settle down and stop shrinking but even then the 38 B bras fit nicely.
In a perfect world I would definitely transition fully but as it is I live 24/7 when I'm at home with my wife, going back to drab when our kids come home or we go out... although going out depends on where we are going. ?
I think I will semi transition if you get that. Very minimal FFS, tracheal shave perhaps, facial hair removal.
I think an androgynous or outright feminine short hairstyle etc. Things that can straddle a line and be accepted on either side of things.
I do have military commitments to fulfill and only a few more years to go so I have to consider that.
The haircut I describe will fit under a beret and can be messed up to look acceptably male or styled to look feminine.
Breasts are easy to hide especially if I don't wear a bra, so no issues there. Besides, being an older guy I'm afforded some leeway. Being Canadian though, if I did transition there would be no issues with the military.
Its more family issues that I need to be thoughtful of.
And...
Yes, my wife is AWESOME!
Nice to be in a community that gets this stuff.
Cheers!