(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: Then the cold came in, and then a payroll change occurred, and an overdue bill arrived, within about 3 days. And the girlfriend's daughter was having problems, too (her relationship with the boyfriend is done. It's a good thing, but it could've worked out better anyway.)
So, we've been slogging along with minimum $$$ (About $100 in cash) to get through until this Friday.... And she had a friend up this past weekend, so we had to do some entertaining.
Me, I'd like to dig a hole, and pull it in after me, sleep for about a month.
Money is stressful. After many years of putting it off my wife and I took Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University class at a local church. Well worth the time. For the first time ever we had a budget and we were both on the same page.
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: Happy pills aren't the solution, though. The risks and problems outweigh the benefits of attacking the root cause.
I agree completely psychiatric pharmacology is so hit and miss with very little science to back up the claims. For those interested in the history and efficacy of psychiatric pharmacology read Robert Whitaker's book Anatomy of an Epidemic. If you don't have access to the book or the time you can watch Dr. Pam Popper's 10 part review/synopsis of the book, here is part one.
That said, there is data behind the efficacy of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy or group therapy. Under the Affordable Care Act a certain amount of therapy should be covered by insurance and there is never any shame in recognizing a problem and working toward seeking a solution to that problem.
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: At this point, I've been doing TONS of research on how to burn off the weight, fast. It's really simple, IF - AND ONLY IF - you actually build the basics.
I think you should stop the emphasis on loosing weight fast and think permanent. Getting to the root cause (spoiler alert, it's the food) will get you there. For research I would start with watching the documentary Forks Over Knives (now streaming on Netflix) then this video, Prevent and Reverse Heart Disease" by Caldwell Esselstyn Jr. MD, describing the progression of heart disease and how to stop and reverse it. Then this video, The Starch Solution, a permanent path to optimum weight and health. I would also check out these web sites, Education and Healthy Solutions and Dr. McDougall's Online Discussion Board.
I used the information from the previous links and have lost a little over 100 lbs in 2 years and I am down to my optimum weight and my wife is down over 80 lbs and still loosing. Along with the weight I lost many ailments. Who knew eating large amounts of potatoes, rice, beans, whole grains, fruit etc... was the key to loosing weight and gaining health.
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: Same with finances. Easy to cut off the extravagances, and get some in the bank, then grow that into something else.
But if you refuse to save, a one week offset in pay turns into a two-week struggle. Especially since the credit cards are maxed out already....
Good Luck, without going to the Financial Peace University class it would have continued to be theory in my head and not put into practice.
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: Besides that....
Well, I only took PM for a month. Doubt there was a change there.
No anti androgens;
This time I decided to do actual HRT because my insurance paid for it and I didn't want to play fast and loose with my health by taking unknown herbs. Within days of starting, like you, the urge went away. I think PM could easily have altered things similarly for you. I know if I stop, my feelings will come back so I am continuing low dose HRT.
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: There are lots of reasons to NOT have breasts, just as there many reasons to continue.
I'm wondering, though.... Off the wall, in a sense, but it makes sense, too....
40 years old. About the time for menopause. Weird though is.... Since I keep finding reasons I should've been born female, from how I walked, talked, gestured, temperament, etc...
Maybe it's actually because I SHOULD be uncaring now? Meaning, a woman hits menopause, she doesn't stop being female, but there's a change in her mind and body. Maybe the "femme" switch is off because it would've turned off naturally?
I think this is wishful thinking, but who knows in your case...
(27-01-2016, 10:33 PM)Dianna1395 Wrote: And then, will it return? Dysphoria ALWAYS comes back, except... Maybe not?
Maybe, but I would be surprised. I'm in my late 50s and it always came back.
Best wishes.