I know that I am, in the minority, in wishing to live full time, as female. Hovever, I was given an insight, yesterday, which may help a lot of you girls. I was told that, because, I an totaly open, about my status, it makes it easy, for people to relate to me. It confirms. my life view, that openess gains you much more, than holding your cards, close to your chest [however well, it is expanding!]
How should I put this......I am trans, been living for the past 11 years full time as female. I have put myself out there in the past only to get my nose bit off (not literally though). In a way it is good, it can help others as well as educate the public. But, I've learned by experience that it can hinder and be dangerous too. People who didn't know treated me one way, but after finding out started to treat me differently in varying degrees. I would say be cautious about being "out" and treat it like your bank account number, only let those who you trust know it. Just trying to help you out.
I guessed, from your post, that you are from the US. The UK is a very different place. All too often we feel a communality, with th US, because of a common language, whereas we have much more in common, with other, North European countries. I am frequently clocked as being male and have not yet developed a female voice. My restaurant is a high profile business and my aim is to be recognised as the best restaurant, in town. I really have no choice, other than to be open and that appears to be working.
(08-08-2011, 08:34 AM)chrissie Wrote: [ -> ]I guessed, from your post, that you are from the US. The UK is a very different place. All too often we feel a communality, with th US, because of a common language, whereas we have much more in common, with other, North European countries. I am frequently clocked as being male and have not yet developed a female voice. My restaurant is a high profile business and my aim is to be recognised as the best restaurant, in town. I really have no choice, other than to be open and that appears to be working.
Hi Chrissie, I understand you have a restaurant in the UK? Where if I may ask. I visited London on regular base a few years ago for work. I have once been to that hotel / bar for transsexuals and transvestites. Did not had the opportunity to go en femme myself but spoke to some wonderful ladies. Altough we have a lot of possibilities in Holland the opportunity to visit incognito a bar / hotel like that was great.
Good you came out. I never had the chance to really come out as transvestite (I am not transsexual, probably a bit transgender). It does not really bother me although a number of things had been easier it I did it (when I was younger). But it all started before somebody ever heard of internet so in my younger years I thought I was the only one who liked to wear womens clothes.
I am in Conwy; a tiny little town, but packed with goodies, for the tourists: the finest surviving town wall/castle complex, in Europe, the finest Elizabethan town house in Britain, the smallest house in Britain, the remains of a house of the greatest welsh prince, of the post Norman era, one of the earliest iron suspension bridges and ditto box girder bridges and an English, medieval merchants house, open to the public and it is a lovely little town, to boot. Also a little gem, for a girl, on the shop! I am here, running the only seafood restaurant, in a fishing port and am determined that it will be recognised as the best restaurant, in town. I make no bones, of my transsexuality; my retaurant is Chrissie's Kitchen and I am almost universaly called Chrissie. Everyone is welcome and some of my trans friends call in and I love to welcome them. I cannot have my ambitions and hide my light under a bushel, so I am totaly open, with staff and, they, in turn, respond well, with my T friends. On the 20th Sept, I am having a T girl, fundraising night.
The internet has been a boon to us T girls. For many tears [ what a Freudian slip; I meant years!], I was put off by [deliberate] misinformation, from Charring Cross. The releif, when, by surfing the net, I discovered the truth, was so liberating. Until recently, I never dressed as me, as I was trying to suppress my transsexuality. Now there is no going back and I have found a level of contentement, I truly, did not beleive was possible. Life is just so good.
Nothing like an advertising Plug eh ?
Love Seafood,
But well done,
Julie
Sounds like you are also very proud of where you live Chrissie. Go get'em!
i took a look at conwy on google maps, you should add a pointer to your place...
Chrissie is a brave Girl,
One for coming out open and two for running a business in the first place
WELL DONE
We could all support her and have a
Coming out of the Shell party
Julie
Julie,
Love the idea of a coming out of the shell party; winkles for the reticent; oysters for the up front girls! Have to work on that one!