Wouldn't it be interesting to know why a man would want boobs? I do, and I really don't know why I want them. I haven't known that for long, just about 3 years now - and I am 61. I have 46A boobs, not real big, but sufficiet to give me a feeling of satisfaction. I guess if I had to say, I would say psychological satisfaction. But what is behind the need for that satisfaction??? That is the question I can not answer. I think it would take a shrink to find that one out.
Now, how about you? Can you come up with the underlying reason why you need boobs? We read that "I have always wanted them" but why? I would expect that no one can answer that without the help of a shrink. But would you want to take a shot at it? Give it some thought before you answer.
This question comes up now and again. I cannot give a logical reason. All I know is that without them, I always wanted them. Having them makes me feel good. I like the way they feel on my chest. I like the feel of them in my hand. The itchy nipples drive me nuts. But somehow even that seems right.
Does that make sense?
I can't tell you why either. It really is something I've wanted for over 30 years, but why; I don't know. Its an interesting question though and hopefully someone will help with the answer.
I know why I want breasts. Well.... sort of....
As a trannie I want a more feminine shape and I hate false pads and forms and fillers. So I reckoned changing my body shape was the way to go and if I got decent boobs then I could show them off thus increasing my ability to pass as female and allowing me to live as female.
Some people on here have pointed out to me that my desire to live as a female and to reshape my body indicates that my drives are more transexual than TV and I find it hard to argue with this because I suspect that they are right. I don't think I have the gender dysphoria of a true transexual and I do regard my self as androgynous - happy to be somewhere between truly male and truly female, but I am finding that the female side of me is becoming dominant and I rarely spend time in "male mode" in any more.
I admit that I find the whole thing very confusing in many ways, but I guess my unanswered question is rather different from those posted above. My question is "why do I want to be more female?" and I cannot answer that.
Beverley
Hi.
What an interesting question and one which I have to agree is difficult to answer.
Not completely understanding or being able to express my feelings will not stop me from trying to acquire them.
I think one has to be careful in ones answer as for some females (and males) it may be "disgusting" that a man should not be contented with being just that.
However, in my heart I know I want breasts and to know that I have them; which with only small growth after 12 months on PM and 18 months of trying is disappointing.
What increase I have helps, however I would like to fill out one of my bras which is why I have recently added a PM cream.
I expect everyone who tries has their own reasons.
Kind regards,
Sarah
can therapy really help answer this question? In short: No.
I myself have been through two or three therapists in my life particularly on this topic, and all of them said that I was simply going through a passing interest simply because I didn't meet all the criteria for being TS, and also the total process is something that I don't want to do to my body.
But the answer as to “why I want breasts?” is actually simpler then some I have had to answer. The fact of the matter is that not only is it a form of emotional security for me, but also a measure of completeness about myself. I have felt that something was missing for a large portion of my post puberty years, and it took me until college to learn just what that was, and now I am going for it
The funny thing about this is that we are all saying the same thing, just not in the same worrds. What I find interesting is that we are from all over, different lifestyles, different personalities, different life experiences, etc. but we all have this one thing in common - the desire to have breasts. Not man-boobs (whatever that is) but real functioning feminine breasts, the more feminine the better. Odd, isn't it? But the desire is real, not a figment of our imagination. Another thing I don't understand is that society, in particular the medical establishment, hasn't picked up on this. I guess if you don't fit into page 1237 chapter 234 section 7 item 236 of the medical book, then it isn't anything they are interested in. The "medical underground", meaning everywhere else where we pick up our herbs, etc. for NBE, has picked up on it and is running a very big business catering to our desires. The pharmaceutical establishment has pills for us, they just don't acknowledge the herbals so i guess they have recognised us some at least. Anyone care to do a master's thesis on the subject?
I actually remember reading in at least one book (with all of them that I have read they seem to meld together) that it is considered Gender Dysphoric for a person of one gender to wish to adapt traits or characteristics of the opposite gender, but the part of this that really got me was I think in paragraph or so before it said that Gender Dysphoria is only really experienced by TS's.
The reason that this got me going was it had also been talking about TV's being people who only wanted to experience or romanticize/eroticize the opposite gender, in terms of traits and characteristics, for short periods of time, and that every TS wanted to go all the way period.
As a note I think that I had read this either shortly before, or right after starting with my first therapist. When I had brought it up to him he stated that “yes it is gender dysphoric to wish to adapt traits or characteristics of the opposite gender. It is also not necessarily specific to TS; especially if you take into consideration the effeminate, heterosexual, male who is completely secure with 'his' male identity but would much rather wear nail polish, and carry a purse then not, and has no intention of ever changing his sex because he identifies as a heterosexual male, and not the typical lesbian trapped in a mans body, and that in terms of Gender Dysphoria being a continuum, as with many things in the world of psychology, with complete acceptance of gender identity on one hand and a total rejection(TS) on the other, and it was completely normal to be in the middle, but the general categorical name is TV for anyone wishing to be in the middle of this continuum”
interesting, but I had to read that about 4 times to see what he was saying. I think I have it now. One part I found very interesting:
" especially if you take into consideration the effeminate, heterosexual, male who is completely secure with 'his' male identity but would much rather wear nail polish, and carry a purse then not, and has no intention of ever changing his sex because he identifies as a heterosexual male, and not the typical lesbian trapped in a mans body"
That kind of describes me, but not completely. I need to move the slider a bit more up scale towards TS. Lets see, Nail polish - check. Panties - check. breasts - small but check. Bra - check. Ladies nightgowns - check. Lounger dress - sometimes so check. Purse - no check. Lipstick - usually so check. Desire to change to female - NO check. Well, guess thats about it. i enjoy a lot of feminine things and feel very comfortable with them, especially my breasts. But that is as far as it goes. No desire to transition. So put the slider at about a 6 to 7 on a 10 scale.
(10-04-2011, 10:35 PM)Wishful Wrote: [ -> ]interesting, but I had to read that about 4 times to see what he was saying.
I didn't think that I was rambling that bad, sorry
(10-04-2011, 10:35 PM)Wishful Wrote: [ -> ]... So put the slider at about a 6 to 7 on a 10 scale.
I don't think that it is that finite, but as long as you know where you stand with respect to the continuum and are "comfortable" there.
I think that it might also be poignant to mention that also like many continuum in the psychological world this one is no exception to the fluidity theory/rule, that at any given time a patient can move from one point on the scale to another in either direction triggered by a large life event(divorce, depression, death of some one close, change in career perspective, etc...). this is the reason why a patient must exhibit signs of "needing" change for a series of month to make sure it is not just a phase (most TS will go through their biggest transition "wants" when they enter a depressed state, and then question that want after when they are no longer depressed) that would be a great time to use the word "take it all!" Right