I’m not sure anyone is left here who might feel the same as I do but this forum has gone to hell in a hand basket. It sounds and looks like a men’s locker room around here – a place I most certainly don’t feel like I belong. I long for the days when we discussed serious topics. When people put thought into a single, thorough response and took the time to check spelling and punctuation. I miss being able to come here and share something that’s on my heart and get helpful feedback or provide encouragement for someone who was struggling with something. I miss the days when I actually wanted to read all the threads because there was something good in all of them. Frankly it’s a rarity now to find anything worthwhile at all. I used to be able to have the forum up on my screen and only have to hide the words “Breast Nexus” at the top of the page. Now I can’t open anything without pornographic profile pics jumping off the screen at me (and whoever happens to glance over my shoulder). I wouldn’t want my male buddies to see that let alone my wife or kids and CERTAINLY wouldn’t want anyone to read what’s being written if I had any hope of them understanding GID.
So with much disappointment, I’m going to take leave of this forum for a while. Hopefully things get back to the way they used to be. If there’s any of the old regulars here anymore who feel the same as I do, please send me an email if things get back to decency and support again. …I think I’ll go wash my eyes with soap and water now and pray for memory loss to forget what I’ve read here lately.
(12-12-2013, 02:55 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: [ -> ]I’m not sure anyone is left here who might feel the same as I do but this forum has gone to hell in a hand basket. It sounds and looks like a men’s locker room around here – a place I most certainly don’t feel like I belong. I long for the days when we discussed serious topics. When people put thought into a single, thorough response and took the time to check spelling and punctuation. I miss being able to come here and share something that’s on my heart and get helpful feedback or provide encouragement for someone who was struggling with something. I miss the days when I actually wanted to read all the threads because there was something good in all of them. Frankly it’s a rarity now to find anything worthwhile at all. I used to be able to have the forum up on my screen and only have to hide the words “Breast Nexus” at the top of the page. Now I can’t open anything without pornographic profile pics jumping off the screen at me (and whoever happens to glance over my shoulder). I wouldn’t want my male buddies to see that let alone my wife or kids and CERTAINLY wouldn’t want anyone to read what’s being written if I had any hope of them understanding GID.
So with much disappointment, I’m going to take leave of this forum for a while. Hopefully things get back to the way they used to be. If there’s any of the old regulars here anymore who feel the same as I do, please send me an email if things get back to decency and support again. …I think I’ll go wash my eyes with soap and water now and pray for memory loss to forget what I’ve read here lately.
Aww, that sucks doodlebug. I kinda had a feeling this was coming after one thread in particular though. Like I just had a thought, " I don't think doodle is going to like this!"
I know exactly what you mean about the male locker room vibe, but, thankfully, I don't get offended that easily.
Sorry for any contribution to your misery that I may have made by mistake. Take care either way! I'll miss ya a little bit in an online kinda way. (I'd tell ya to hang around, but that seems selfish)
Actually, screw that. Just click on the names of the few people who offend you, look to the bottom of page, add them to your IGNORE list. It works, I just tested it. Doesn't even show a profile pic for them afterwards, much less the content of their posts(neither of which bother me, I'm just trying to be helpful).You shouldn't let the minority ruin your experience here if they offend you to this degree. But, hey, it's your choice....
(12-12-2013, 02:55 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: [ -> ]I’m not sure anyone is left here who might feel the same as I do but this forum has gone to hell in a hand basket. It sounds and looks like a men’s locker room around here – a place I most certainly don’t feel like I belong. I long for the days when we discussed serious topics. When people put thought into a single, thorough response and took the time to check spelling and punctuation. I miss being able to come here and share something that’s on my heart and get helpful feedback or provide encouragement for someone who was struggling with something. I miss the days when I actually wanted to read all the threads because there was something good in all of them. Frankly it’s a rarity now to find anything worthwhile at all. I used to be able to have the forum up on my screen and only have to hide the words “Breast Nexus” at the top of the page. Now I can’t open anything without pornographic profile pics jumping off the screen at me (and whoever happens to glance over my shoulder). I wouldn’t want my male buddies to see that let alone my wife or kids and CERTAINLY wouldn’t want anyone to read what’s being written if I had any hope of them understanding GID.
So with much disappointment, I’m going to take leave of this forum for a while. Hopefully things get back to the way they used to be. If there’s any of the old regulars here anymore who feel the same as I do, please send me an email if things get back to decency and support again. …I think I’ll go wash my eyes with soap and water now and pray for memory loss to forget what I’ve read here lately.
Wish you happiness in your retirement from the forum . Cya
Somehow, that just doesn't surprise me.
I find many times people comment just to comment; it's like multiplayer notepad. I used to read EVERY post on this forum. Now I find myself skimming through threads and skipping some all together. It could be said that the growth of this forum naturally has lead it to this. Perhaps all of this has been here all along, it was just lost among more meaningful and/or thought provoking threads. Many members who used to post on a regular basis seldom if ever post any more. I suspect many feel or have felt the same as you doodle and have chosen not to engage this forum any more. For me to reply to any thread I try for the reply to contribute to the topic at hand. I suppose I'm so used to forums with a more visibly active moderation staff. With that over time I've developed almost a self moderation, where as before I make a thread I search first, I make an honest attempt at correct grammar, I try to make posts pertinant to threads, I realise I may be bumping a dead thread, the list goes on. I do believe we have a good group of people on this forum and with a little (I totally drew a blank on what I wanted to write and it was flowing so nice in my mind) we will have a thriving forum. Doodle I do hope you will stop in from time to time to at least have a look around, maybe drop a line or two. I for one value your thoughts. Even if I don't make a post saying so.
Sorry if any of that doesn't make sense. It's late, I'm on my phone, and still a little blank.
I'm not sure if this is pertaining only to the male's posts, but I will speak as a whole that your reason for leaving is not sounding too fair. This is a breast growth forum. Do you really expect it to be a G-rated area? Many of us rely on and appreciate visuals to follow our own growth and others. I cannot imagine EVER having this site open in front of anyone, but that is okay.
There are all different personality types on here but we all have one thing in common and that is we are trying to grow our boobs. I rarely come across anything that is offensive on here. I saw the post that upset you a week ago--Missed Miss' post on a woman's large chest. It started quite a discussion and I personally wish we had more variety-posts like that on here.
I am sorry you feel so strongly that you are leaving but really, what do you expect from a forum about boobs?
Well, I must say I saw this coming. Doodle I am sorry to see you go, but I understand, and I sympathize. I have been coming here for a long time, and I have seen many users participate heavily for a period and then fade out. I always figured it was that for some they were just dabbling and grew out of it. For others, I was sure their journey took them further into the transgender world than this forum could assist with. But the overall nature of the forum remained the same. Until recently. I always felt this was a place for genetic males to begin first steps toward experiencing some degree of change toward a feminine side. It was social, friendly and supportive. Recently, I feel the forum has been over run with members who seem only interested in a more masculine form of sexual titilation. Porn and sex jokes, essentially. While I have no problem with porn, per se, it is not why I come here. There are plenty of places specifically devoted to that on the web. Frankly, I now skip postings by many newer members simply because I don't want to read that kind of thing here. I don't plan to stop coming here, but, without telling anyone what to do, I do miss the old days. A large part of coming here for me was to come to a place where I could get away from "guy" stuff, and that option seems to be disappearing here. It makes me sad.
Doodle,
I hear you. I took about 6 months away from the site. Don't give up on it completely. You may need to take a break as well. In a few months I would bet you anything that other men will find themselves browsing this site and have the same feelings, issues, and comcerns you had. Doodle, we joined about the same time and were feeling similar emotions. It was important to me to know that I am not alone in this crazy journey called life.
For those you wish to have more civilized conversations the PM (private message) route might be the way to go.
Take care budd,
Aka Jessica
I am sorry to see I am not the only one who feels this forum has been overrun with sexual topics. It was not my cup of tea when there was so much focus on nipple play and orgasms. Fortunately, that seems to have faded to a background thing. I will at least say that was somewhat on topic for breast growth, as it may be related to the assessment of progress (trying to be nice here, I don't think it has much to do with growth, just some folks' measures of success or failure). But the increase in focus on butts, and the pictures that include genitals cannot possibly be considered on topic. If the site moderators believe those topics have a place here, then I for one think there should be a sub-forum for topics like "Sexual aspects of boobs on men", or perhaps "Why panties on men look better if they have boobs". It is frankly one of the reasons I don't post much anymore, and seldom visit the pictures forum anymore. I'm not against anyone having their own reasons and goals for growing breasts. But I do agree with doodlebug that this isn't the place for most of that detail. It would be fine to mention your motivation, but full discussion of it seems like it belongs elsewhere.
The changes lately make me sad too doodlebug, but I haven't left because I'm hoping it is a passing thing like the nipple orgasm thing was. I don't know any other place that has had our combination of open sharing, experience, perspective, and respect online that also caters to our specific topic. We used to talk about herbs, regimens, exercises (to grow, not to excite), social impacts, appearance and clothing impacts (to do with breasts, not the rest of it), and mental/emotional topics related to breast growth (more than just for sex). Maybe it's all been said and there isn't much of anything new. Maybe that's all this is. Maybe it is past time to "Grow and Go".
Whatever you choose, and on the assumption you'll see this post, take care of yourself doodlebug. Your contributions have been varied and appreciated. Thank you.
I agree with Doodle and Sfem.
I also wonder if this site is even moderated at all.
If so, why has so much been let to slide?