09-02-2018, 05:05 PM
(09-02-2018, 04:05 PM)Tanya Marie Squirrel Wrote: For quite some time(9 years and counting), I have been Asexual(a person who has no sexual feelings or desires)., and haven't dated
That does not mean I am not interested in dating, its just that I find it hard to trust others. Why? well, being pre-op, I have a hard time trusting that anyone whom I am interested in, will not see me for who I am, the female I am. It is hard for me to trust that the person I want to be with , wont see that male appendage, and wish for something more, asking me to be something I am not. Wanting me to satisfy their secret desires of being gay, without the social repercussions. Their fascination with a 75% female body, with a 25% male anatomy. Of course, being on HRT, the desires to even copulate are zilch, but, there are rare occasions where I feel I may be missing out, perhaps too much, but the thought of the messy situation of dating, with its inherent expectations, tends for my desires to wane.
I am not saying everyone else who dates transgendered folk see us that way, because I am sure there are many wonderful, accepting people out there that perhaps I am just passing over due to my own insecurities.
I have had intercourse in the past, but there has always been that thought in the back of my mind, "do they really see me for who I am, or are they just pacifying my desire to be seen as female? " One can never truly know. I am a fair judge of character and a good read on people. certain body language, word usage, and even tone can give true natures away.
I am also Sapiosexual (One who finds the content's of someone else's mind to be their most attractive attribute, above and before their physical characteristics) so there's that too, in the mix. Show me intelligence, and I will show you my heart.
What is your perception of your situation? Would be interested in hearing how you feel. Not writing this post for advice, just want to hear others views on their situation.
Definitely identify with the sapiosexual part. Enlightened intelligence is very appealing and one of the things I find I most admire in another. Not simply smarts, but depth and wisdom.