15-03-2015, 12:56 AM
(14-03-2015, 07:48 PM)SarahSchilling Wrote:(14-03-2015, 07:05 AM)MissC Wrote:(13-03-2015, 04:47 AM)ClaraKay Wrote: Many of my trans friends are stuck in low gear or are not moving at all. I have no choice but to leave them behind.
That is a... staggering... statement. It sounds... well....
I have a wide variety of friends on the (for lack of a better phrase) T* spectrum -- gender queer/fluid, semi-annual crossdressers, weekend warriors, non-ops, transitioners, post-ops, drag queens, and even a shemale porn star. Yes, real-life local friends, not social media "friends".
Everyone is where they are, and it's their own responsibility to be happy with it. I wouldn't dream of judging any of them based on my little spot on the spectrum as a yardstick. I don't consider myself to be "ahead" or "behind" anyone!
I believe myself to be fairly well adjusted in my little space... I've learned to not envy others' seeming perfection, in a grass-always-greener fashion. The post-op and the occasional crossdresser probably envy each other's lives for their own reasons. It's just pointless to want someone else's life.
But leaving people behind because they don't share your exact ambitions? Good luck keeping friends with an attitude like that!
I get the feeling that the only reason they were "friends" is because they shared that singular ambition. In which case, it makes perfect sense that as that shared ambition changed, the relationship ended. Of course, it doesn't sound like a friendship to begin with, but that's my best guess. It's like people I meet at college and we kind of are friends, but only as long as we have a class together. Once you take away that, we stop talking. More acquaintances than friends, because I never had much in common with them to begin with.
As for the topic, I'm not shy online, so I'll show mine whenever I like. Even irl, if women want to see then I'll show them. I'm the same person as I've always been,so....
I don't think I'll change much personality wise after SRS either. Lol to each their own. I will say that Showing them to a guy gives me a really exciting feeling now. Lmao
I hope you never change!
B.