(11-06-2010, 08:34 PM)CousinRose Wrote: I think friends and family might be more understanding than you think. People are afraid of what they don't understand so if you explain your reasons, they just might accept them.
I hope in the future people will be more understanding about the individuality and not always trying to be like anyone else. I think you guys are very brave for doing this because while us girls are doing this we are fitting more into the images of today and you are kind of doing the opposite. I compliment you for following your own dreams, being who you are and I wish you best of luck in your journey I just wish you wouldn't have to keep it a secret.
Well what a truly fantastic reply, i couldnt agree more with what you put here and if every person shared your thoughts, then the majority of us wouldnt have to live in corners, too afraid to come out and show our true faces. My wife who i have been with for 10 years (married 8) knows about my wish to have breasts and despite reservations stated yesterday that she is sure, like me, she will grow to love them.
I have never tried to hide what i am and have told every partner near enough from day 1 what i am, its up to them then if they want a relationship or not, i have been treated very bad in the past, no more then when my ex wife told her mum that she was ending our marriage as she had just found out that i had been wearing her clothes, despite the fact that she was the one who forced me to go out dressed up for the first time and loved shaving my legs and buying my girly clothes (convieniently we were the same size). The way i see it is if your partner truly loves you then they willl take you as you are and for instance if my wife came home today and said she wanted to become a bloke i would still stay with her..or him lol as its the person on the inside i love.
Not only does my wife know i am trans of some sort, but so does all my family(mum took it a bit hard, but now just shruggs her shoulders at it) also do all my neigbours and most of the people i work with and yeah maybe a lot of backstabbing goes on but i dont really give a tish. Back in my early days i was embarrissed over what i was, but the older i get the less i care. I do tone it down when my children in front of my children as its not fair they should take stick over what i am, but when they are not around then anything goes.
Ive got to get breasts to become the "real me" as if i die without them, well i feel i might as well of been flushed down the loo when i was born, so it goes without saying that if anyone asked me about my NBE then i would say its because i feel as if i am 60% female and 40 male and i want a body to match how i feel, point is how many people would believe me anyway, just wish more people could be like me, then maybe if would be safer for us lot to come down out the attic and up from the basement.