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Since the smoke seems to be clearing, I'm going to dip my toes in the whirlpool.
1st, I'm a bit confused. Some here referred to Wahaika as "he", a male? On the profile it says "female". Makes a bit of difference. We may choose not to put our age on our profile, (makes it harder to offer advice when someone asks for it), but it shouldn't be a hard thing to at least be honest enough to let everyone know what your sex is. You can choose "other", but it would be nice if you stated in your profile why that is.
2nd, until now, after reading some of this, I begin to feel that there must be a whole lot of complications/contradictions in my life that for some reason I just haven't had the (pleasure?) of experiencing. I will forthwith make an ever more intensive effort to experience them. (Just joking).
Glassfin, bear with us. There are some opportunities for further understanding being presented by this hijacking of your thread. Frittam, and Barbara Fury make some points to be expounded on.
I spent 50 years of my life as a crossdresser. No regrets, and only a couple embarrassments. I never along the way seriously considered going the SRS route. Wonderful understanding wife, great kids, and 2 good careers. not interested in basically commiting suicide. Never a macho type. I still relate macho to "brutish, with low mental capacity". But, I knew something was just not right. Not drastically so, but a certain "balance" was not there. With my wifes' agreement, I started on some herbs. Licorice, black cohosh, FG, etc. Zip, zilch, nada. PM was unheard of, at least by me. Decided, after a fair bit of discussion, to go with hormones. (Go ahead, flame on). No doctors, self-medded. Again, no regrets, but you will also not find me recommending it to others.
I/we got the results hoped for. I have become an all-round better person, to both our benefit. More agreeable temperament, more empathetic to my wifes' feelings, easier-going. The balance I was looking for!!! Frittam is correct, the development of breasts and some other body feminization is less important than the inner and emotional "smoothing" that occurs. I do like my 38 (nearly) C breasts, but they're not the do-all-end-all. Some here would maybe call it brain-rewiring. Personally, I can't wrap my head around that. I feel more like my body is giving my brain new information, and it has in turn adjusted itself to a new situation. Does estrogen go to your brain? It goes to your body and associated glands. Your brain recognizes changes in body processes and adjusts accordingly. Whatever. I like it, she likes it, and I'll let you folks twist your brains around whatever terminology you wish to try to understand and apply.
Tibetan113, has any of this helped you? I'm actually glad you jumped in here, albeit with a bit of a judgemental attitude. And, don't take what I'm about to say as personal, because I do appreciate the fact that you seem to be trying to understand. (Which may be better than me, 'cause I tend to let a lot of the labeling being tossed around here run right past me). It took me 10 years after my divorce to find someone who "fit" with me. It felt as though a large share of the female population had taken the feminist thing to an extreme degree, and so many of them had become so enamored of themselves and demanded so much from a possible mate, that it was nearly impossible to find someone who fit them. I gave up. Not on women, but more specifically on the "modern American" women. It was only when I met my Asian sweetheart, that the thought of married life became possible again. She represents a whole different attitude as well as culture. Realistic, non-materialistic, simple, and willing to accept my faults. I've been in heaven!! I have said all that in order that you may understand that it is important to see a female who is actually trying to understand. It has become somewhat of a rarity.
You also hit on one of my pet peeves. There are few things less attractive than a hairy pair of moobs. Others may call them breasts, but my opinion is that if you have a pair of appendages on your chest, and your nipples are pointed at the ground one step in front of your feet, then they're moobs. They can in some cases be turned into breasts, but that will require a lot of commitment, a commitment that obviously isn't present if you can't even take the short time to at least shave them. I can see why most of the ladies would be unimpressed, to say the least. Female breasts are NOT hairy, (none that I've found so far) and even the saggiest female breasts (99 out of 100) will still have nipples pointing front and forward. I have to be honest, even though I know I just pissed a few folks off. And on that happy note goodnight!! Patti
(By the way, Barbara Fury, nice photo! I like to see real people!)
