We all have "freak" days, and, you think YOU have it bad?? I'm 6' 9" with a few teeth missing (thanks to a dentist I went to when I was 12!!), AND, as my family's been in this house since 1936, nearly everyone here knows me, my brother was in jail for most of the last few years of his life for child molesting (although, we're pretty sure he didn't exactly do it), so, a lot of the immediate neighbors STILL consider the entire FAMILY to be child molesters!! AND, I'm at least marginally famous around here for being the drummer in a local band for 25 years!!
While in the band, I always wore a mini skirt, leotard and pantyhose or tights to play gigs because it just works MUCH better for me the way I play, than if I were to wear a t-shirt and ANY kind of pants! Every night after a gig, if I had to walk home from Oakland (a good 90 minute walk!), because nobody would drive me home and I don't have a car, I'd walk home in my stage gear, maybe with a t-shirt on instead of the leo and, quite often, with a bra and fake silicone tits on and I'd go the shortest route I knew, which, at 3:00 a.m. or so, took me through one of the roughest areas in this city and, in all those years, I never ONCE got hassled on the street!!
Not to point any fingers, but, it just stands to reason that the only reason they "have the power to hurt you" is because you give it to them. You just to develop a thicker skin and not let the shit bother you anymore. That might be easier for ME to say, because I've ALWAYS been picked on by SOMEBODY!!!! EVERYTHING about me is SOMEBODY'S target!! To this very day, my uncle, who's known me since I was at least 2 or 3 STILL makes fun of the way I eat at the dinner table!! You'd think that after 10 or 20 years of it and me STILL eating the same way, he would've caught on and gotten bored with it, but, NO, he's in his 80's and I'm pushing 60 and he's STILL doing it!!!! I get it if I cut off the fat from my meat, make a pool of gravy in my mashed potatoes, dip my potatoes into the gravy until it's all gone, then refill the gravy, the way I butter my bread, EVERYTHING!!!! It only bothers me THAT he still does it, but, I tend to give it back to him!! He eats like he's never eaten before, so, I might tell everyone else, just keep your hands and feet away from his mouth and you SHOULD be alright!! I don't think he even gets it!
Arm yourself with a plethora of snappy come-backs and an "I don't give a shit!!" attitude and you'll stand a better chance. They only pick on you if they get the feeling it'll bother you and make THEM feel superior, so, you just have to stand up to them and knock them down a few pegs. Someone once called my style of put downs, "verbal karate", because, I just have this way of taking an insult thrown at me and turning it around and throwing it back at them, hurting them more, in the process. Basically, just don't ALLOW their insults and whispers to bother you! As of last Oct., I've had to wear these knee nigh compression stockings that kinda look like knee-high tights. They're pretty thick. I can't tell you how many times I spot people on the bus looking at them an then whispering funny comments about them to their friends, or whoever is sitting next to them, like I'm actually wearing knee high L'eggs!! I see them do it, but, I just blow it off!! Tough fucking shit if they're too stupid to realize WHY I'm wearing them!! Also tough shit that they're too stupid to know better than to make fun of ANYONE that's different from them!! I don't have to explain ANYTHING to them!! And, I can nearly ALWAYS find something about them to make fun of!! Normally, I don't do that, but, if they can do it to me, I can EASILY do it to them!!!!
It's bad enough that I get made fun of just because I'm very tall, have long hair and don't have ANY inclination to dress like the clones and robots THEY are. FUCK....THEM!!!!!! Do THEY come to ME an ask ME how they should dress?? I may not LIKE what they wear or how they look, but I'll support their right to do it!! Too bad it doesn't come back at you!! HOPEFULLY you can lead by example, but, if that doesn't work, FUCK `EM!!!! If they can dish it out, they better DAMN WELL be able to take it!!!!
Anyway, what matters most is that YOU do what makes YOU happy!!!! You have NOTHING to prove to them!!!! Who died and made THEM the Fashion Police????
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