(20-08-2014, 03:22 PM)ClaraKay Wrote: I've found that being confined to male expression, that is, deprived of my true gender expression most of my life resulted in me not caring about my appearance; my not taking care of a body that I really didn't feel a healthy connection to. That has changed since starting NBE and now transitioning to what will probably be presenting as a woman full time.
I've noticed that many here are over weight when starting NBE. If I had the genetic tendency to be overweight I'm sure that would have been me, too. Even so, I've lost 20 pounds without hardly trying, all because I see the possibility of having a body and a face that is closer to what I think it should have been from the start.
Transition to a full or partial extent is often the only answer to solving deep rooted problems of self-worth caused by a cross gender identity, and relieving the mental distress that accompanies those doubts.
Clara
Hmmmm. I can see what you mean and it makes sense but talking about myself, I'm almost complete opposite.
I will point out though that I believe I'm a unusual case. lol.
I could not walk to the shop, less than 2 minute away, for a loaf of bread without spending 45 minutes getting ready first. Today, right now, I am about to go for a shower and clean up before going to cut the hedge at the front of my house. I am almost fanatical about it, I hate my male appearance but I find the unkempt, uncared for version, way more disgusting and even harder to deal with.
Somehow taking care of my appearance helps placate my female side.
As for weight. I also find it very hard to put weight on. For example the last 5 or 6 months I have been suffering depression. Drinking myself stupid, eating fast food, junk food and being almost completely inactive for weeks on end. I have lost some muscle mass and put on 9 pounds above my normal weight. Lot's of abuse and hard work for very little gain. lol
Now I'm feeling better I've stopped most of the drinking, I'm eating proper meals every day and deliberately being more active. Lost 4 pounds last week and 3 pounds so far this week. Will be my normal weight by end of this week. Just need to sort out muscle mass and fitness level.
It's going to be interesting to see what happens when I get on some phytoestrogen or oestrogen!
Denita