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(12-05-2015, 01:48 PM)EvaMarie Wrote: (12-05-2015, 09:55 AM)SarahSchilling Wrote: The other night, this guy was sitting kinda close, like all up on my hip. There was plenty of room on the other side of him.It's just different somehow when a guy sits next to me or talks to me now. (yes, I am stealth aside from a few trusted friends. It's kind of a hard topic to bring up and doesn't seem like a big deal anymore.)
If a girl did the same thing it wouldn't be an issue at all, but when a guy does it it's like "whoa, what does this mean"?
I'm pretty sure this had absolutely nothing to do with my breasts! Also pretty sure I was bi to begin with! The way that people treat you does tend to tilt the sexual preference balance a bit though! (and breasts, among other things, can change the way that people treat you.)
Well I guess you could call it being "BI", but I can say I never was into being with a guy as a guy I was only into being submissive with men and Id never want to "top" any dude and I had a lot trouble doing that even with women... Im sure you don't consider it "gay" to get with a guy now right??? That used to really mess with me!!! It's clear now of course... That said while Im mainly attracted to men now and very comfortable around men as a woman that wasn't always the case and I used to be much more attracted to women...
Now of course Id consider it "gay" to get with another girl and I'll admit that has more than a little appeal, just not in my current configuration
No it has nothing to do with my breasts but everything to do with how I and the rest of the world see's me now
LOL, well I'm engaged to a transgender girl. Labels like "gay" seem rather arbitrary at this point! It just gets too complicated, and really doesn't mean anything, aside from societal stigma.
I'm attracted to men and women, so bi just covers all my bases. Face it sweetie, as far as the people who care about someone being gay are concerned.....we all are totally gay!! (As in atypical)
Those people don't matter though lol
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I am not convinced that breasts per se have much to do with sexuality, in fact, the further down this path I travel, the less significance breasts by themselves seem to have. It is now all to do with the whole body and mind rather than one particular part of it.
Speaking personally, I have always been attracted to females predominantly although not absolutely exclusively, that said, there are very, very few males indeed who really 'float my boat'. Certainly this journey has caused me to re-evaluate my sexuality in an attempt to align it with the person I have discovered within.
Does this mean I now fancy males to a greater degree and females less? I think the jury is still probably out. I can certainly fantasise about being swept off my feet by some handsome male stranger, but do I want it in real life? I don't know. Also I find that the lowered libido means I tend to look at females in a non sexual manner as friends and equals, hence I suppose you could argue I am heading towards a more asexual position. Yet, I still enjoy shared intimacy with my wife (relations now back to 'normal'). Its another complex area in this difficult maze we are negotiating.
I guess what I mean is that I think it probably isn't the breasts themselves which drive any changes which might occur in sexuality , it is the underlying personality which could be released as a result of the hormones taken to generate the breast growth. This personality might well be extremely hard to predict!!!!
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(12-05-2015, 09:26 PM)SarahSchilling Wrote: (12-05-2015, 01:48 PM)EvaMarie Wrote: (12-05-2015, 09:55 AM)SarahSchilling Wrote: The other night, this guy was sitting kinda close, like all up on my hip. There was plenty of room on the other side of him.It's just different somehow when a guy sits next to me or talks to me now. (yes, I am stealth aside from a few trusted friends. It's kind of a hard topic to bring up and doesn't seem like a big deal anymore.)
If a girl did the same thing it wouldn't be an issue at all, but when a guy does it it's like "whoa, what does this mean"?
I'm pretty sure this had absolutely nothing to do with my breasts! Also pretty sure I was bi to begin with! The way that people treat you does tend to tilt the sexual preference balance a bit though! (and breasts, among other things, can change the way that people treat you.)
Well I guess you could call it being "BI", but I can say I never was into being with a guy as a guy I was only into being submissive with men and Id never want to "top" any dude and I had a lot trouble doing that even with women... Im sure you don't consider it "gay" to get with a guy now right??? That used to really mess with me!!! It's clear now of course... That said while Im mainly attracted to men now and very comfortable around men as a woman that wasn't always the case and I used to be much more attracted to women...
Now of course Id consider it "gay" to get with another girl and I'll admit that has more than a little appeal, just not in my current configuration
No it has nothing to do with my breasts but everything to do with how I and the rest of the world see's me now
LOL, well I'm engaged to a transgender girl. Labels like "gay" seem rather arbitrary at this point! It just gets too complicated, and really doesn't mean anything, aside from societal stigma.
I'm attracted to men and women, so bi just covers all my bases. Face it sweetie, as far as the people who care about someone being gay are concerned.....we all are totally gay!! (As in atypical)
Those people don't matter though lol
Oh I agree with ya Sis, yes particularly a pre op TS woman is seen by most cis people as super queer and I cant really blame them because they will never truly get this shit anyway
Its not like Im not WAY over the whole "gay" deal, I am... Its just that as far as males go two "men" getting it on is what I consider "gay" and I don't consider myself a man
Problem is finding a guy who truly see's it the same way and doesn't just look at me like some kink or fetish like some porno fantasy.... Until that's fixed that's the shit I gotta live with and it does suck
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(14-05-2015, 05:26 PM)EvaMarie Wrote: ...Problem is finding a guy who truly see's it the same way and doesn't just look at me like some kink or fetish like some porno fantasy.... Until that's fixed that's the shit I gotta live with and it does suck
I'm glad that I'm in a stable relationship (marriage) to an understanding and accepting woman. I think it would be so hard to find a lover and life partner who is comfortable with my being trans. Trans stigma is still a serious issue for us.
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while breasts might not change sexual orientation, i do believe that we who choose to grow breasts (if male ?) are more likely to have said breasts enhance and clarify our sexual orientation.
i agree with EvaMarie in that while i was technically somewhat bisexual as a man, i was always a 'bottom', and that my attraction to women was more about wanting to be a woman, rather than being with a woman (as a man)
Now that im on her-moans (synthetic hormones?), i find that men are far more attractive, and that any sexual attraction towards women, were probably due to the influence of testosterone. When presenting as male (as i still do thusfar, because of a lack of female passability and lack of a feminine wardrobe), that would make me be read as 'gay man', but in due time, and if/when i can pass, i would be considered a straight woman.